Hi, I'm going to preface this with an apology in advance if I sound crazy, uninformed, or offensive in any way. I certainly don't want to diminish the experiences of any by my lack of understanding of my own experiences.

How can real memories of sexual abuse be distinguished from manifestations of false memory syndrome (FMS)?
Based on what I've told my therapist, she thinks I was molested. ?? I have some memories, but I cannot time travel and prove to myself their validity.

Here is why I ask:
7 months ago, a question came to mind after coming across a broken and very odd memory along with a dream that some might characterize as a "flashback". "Was I molested?" I looked everywhere for an answer and have made little progress, although still some. I began therapy, told her about my sexual nightmares as a kid, my early sexual knowledge/behaviors, my memory gaps, my sketchy memories with my uncle (although none conclusive enough to say anything illicit happened (in most states)).

I know this much- yes, it sounds stupid:
my uncle WAS abusive, sexually, even if not to me.
He DID make me spoon with him and lay on him while he was drunk.

Are these behaviors inherently abusive? I didn't think so, but many do.

Here is where things are strange:
After "digging" i "uncovered" more memories. I did this completely on my own but have no idea whether or not these "memories" are valid.
The content in my nightmares as a young girl (before i knew about sex) was farrrr more explicit than anything I recall with my uncle or anyone for that matter.

Needless to say, this is causing a degree of cognitive dissonance in me. My therapist thinks that the things in my nightmares are things that probably happened to me. I don't know if I agree with this.

A) Where could this come from?
B) Is it worth it looking further?
C) How can I know if I have false memory syndrome?
D) How can I tell if just, deep within my subconscious, I am attention hungry and all of these "memories" are manifestations of that or not?

What should I do?
Should I dig deeper or let sleeping dogs lie?
How can I handle this properly?

Thanks