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Old Sep 10, 2013, 11:19 PM
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Of course there's nothing wrong with that! Your needs haven't been fully met yet, so why would you want the relationship to change? It's like children always say they want to grow up, but you know from experience that they very much also want everything to stay the same.

I think some people long for a non-therapy relationship before their needs have been met as a defense against the fear that comes with doing the work. And that isn't about a relationship with the T as a real person, but about coping with unmet needs.

There's nothing lesser about a non-therapy relationship, but it is entirely different in reality than fantasy.