Mel, i'm sorry that you're having to go through with this. my parents fought and said things like "if it wasn't for Pat, i'd divorce you", so i know how awful the feelings are that this generates.

do you have an older friend that you could confide in? one that is totally trustworthy? could you call the therapist that you saw before?

if not, i'd confront daddy dearest . tell him what you believe and tell him that the ball is in his court for now. that might be enough of a shock to his silly system to wake him up. please keep me updated throughout the holidays and after. i'll be home all weekend......xoxoxo pat