Vent away!!! We are currently (like, I should be boxing stuff up right now ) in the process of moving out of a landlord-doesn't-know-not-legally-habitable-basement space situation (though not as rough as yours -- serious to you!!!). Into a little apartment that the landlord is nervous about how we will be able to swing it, but we're just so glad he's giving us the chance to try(!) (AND he cut us a major break on an issue that has stood like a fortress in our way from getting any place.) I SO VERY MUCH hear you on the caught between the cracks thing -- sometimes I swear I live there! You are right -- it is very frustrating!! (Understatement!)

Can't say I have much in the way of advice (though you aren't seeking it, still...), but just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. (Because it can feel that way, and pretty isolating to boot, huh? Can't talk about so much for fear of getting people in trouble and losing what you have, right? ) Hoping for good things to you, in whatever form they come.

(And thanks, Speed. BF was just tonight despairing of ever being able to get back to school given our situation -- your post was encouraging and timely so. Thanks!)