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Originally Posted by CantExplain
Hi guys!
For me, one of the pains of my failed relationship is that I don't understand why it worked and why it stopped working.
Did you feel a need for answers? Did you get any?
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I can fully relate.
Someone I loved very much has recently broken up with me. Proper answers, honesty would have helped a lot. Despite my tireless efforts I did not get them - he refused to talk and blames circumstances.
It makes it all the more painful. Makes me feel that he doesn't think I'm worthy of knowing the full picture. It is unbearable, to be honest.
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Originally Posted by CantExplain
I think closure is a bit of a myth. You can't wind up a ten-year relationship in a month, or three months, or even six months.
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Closure might work if both parties equally feel that ending the relationship is truly the best for both of them. It is still a process that can last quite long. In an ideal world it would lead into friendship.
In truth, I think most relationships end because one party decides to end it one-sidedly. That is devastating to the one being dumped and frankly, I don't think that any kind of healing closure is possible.