I have my second apt with my therapist for DBT tomorrow and I'm worried. I'm worried that I won't understand, that I haven't done enough, that I haven't tried hard enough, that I won't be able to stay with it, that trying to fit into a group will just be too hard. I called in once to talk to her and she asked me questions that made sense and got me to stop thinking that everything is my fault. But she also kept saying "read your handouts and do something about how you feel". And she said that she would be away, but I could call another therapist if I needed to, but that they would tell me the same thing. So part of DBT is tough-love. I just don't know if I can deal with someone using me like that. My first inclination is to shrink away and disappear.