I think Anilam makes some very good points here.
Saying your house is dirty means so much more than that. There is a wealth of hidden meanings behind this just waiting to be explored by you and t.
It has a lot to do with your past and your feelings about you and not about your house. It could be a control thing too Recto.
I am very sorry your t doesn't listen sometimes, it is so painful to hear. I hear you talking about wanting a baby so much
You and t both talk and are more like friends- this isn't therapy anymore.
For your own sake I would consider a new t and maybe see what this t says if you tell her it feels more like friends now.
You deserve to be heard and understood recto.
Ps, I think it was a kind gesture from your t, her intentions were good and I don't think she was being condescending or trying to solve anything, just being kind.