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Originally Posted by granite1
one of the things that my T brought up was trust .this was because of the letter I gave her last week. in that letter I had said I wonder if I am broken and just will never have the capacity to trust anyone ever .that this is just who I am. she told me that was not what she sees at all. she pointed out how she saw trust in our relationship  . she pointed out how when I think she is thinking horrible thoughts about me that I am able to still come to T and work it out . that even when I am scared I still find a way to come to T. that I have hope. I told her I thought that was crazy .that isn't the definition of insanity to keep doing the same thing expecting a different outcome. she said that she sees things as changing .being different . I didn't know how to respond to this at all. I know that there are parts of me that is starting to trust her. but to hear her say that she sees this terrified me. in a way it was like I trusted her on some level but still didn't know if it was ok to do so . kind of like a feeling of doom. I trusted her and she knew it and this could not be good. I wanted to ask her what was I suppose to do with this information but I felt it better to just keep my mouth shut. I didn't say a word as she spoke .I just felt it safer because I didn't know what to feel . eventually she changed the subject. I am left with this feeling of not knowing if this is ok or what to do with this information. it all scares me .  anyone have this conversation with there T. how did you be ok with trusting your T. were you able to bring that to your life outside of T with other people. feel like ok you trust your T but outside the therapeutic relationship trust is very different?
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Sounds like our Ts are as similar as are we. I too have major trust issues. On several occasions I have stated that I'm wasting her time because I'm not doing the work I should be doing because... Well, I'm a piece of crap. Lol
My T then said almost exactly what yours said. She pointed out that I've always made my (twice a week) sessions even though most the time I don't feel like I want to. She sees improvement where I see crises because overwhelming insight can sometimes lead to poor emotional impulse control. She's also acknowledged a growing trust. However, like you, I feel like I temper. It's like I only feel like I can trust her to a degree because it is therapy and its her job. In the real world it'd be different.
I'm NOT comfortable with trusting her completely because I don't trust myself. I'm NOT really interested in learning to trust others. (I'm sure my T would consider that a pathological thought. Whateverí ½í¸) I would like to be able to trust myself though. I've been listening to everyone else for so long that I don't know what I think or even sound like anymore.
BTW: I'm also dealing with a unwelcome, growing attachment.
51% HATE IT (physically painful)
25% Comforted By It
24 % Confused
100 % BLESSED TO HAVE MY T!!!