Basic truths:

- they probably don't do it on purpose, they just have their own **** to deal with. Don't try to explain their behavior in terms of intentions. They just are like that.
- you won't be able to change your family, specially your parents.
- you'll need 'vacation' from your family, at a place where they can't contact you. You'll need a separate group of friends, that can't be contacted by your family.
- since you are the one who is aware, you'll survive this, you are already working on your problems.