You really need to think about the question of whether you want a bipolar wife. It's great that you don't think of her that way, but the jury is still out on whether the disorder can be separated from the person. It can go well beyond her being difficult. It's not like some kind of physical defect. You would be signing on to the roller coaster ride with the occasional stroll through Hell. It is said that love conquers all, but having a bipolar spouse will definitely put that to the test. There is no cure for the disorder. It's permanent and will only get worse with age.

What kind of bipolar is she? Is she medicated? If she's bipolar I with psychotic features (like me), you will have to be prepared for her to decide she doesn't need her meds any more and do something like emptying your bank account after running off to become an astronaut and then come crashing down and lay on the floor crying for hours at a time. The fact that she bailed out and disappeared is something you would likely have to be prepared for to happen again. You will also have to understand that the statistics on bipolar suicide are not good.

If you really believe that you can handle all of that, then by all means go after her and don't let anything stand in your way.

Just trying to bring some reality to the table.