dear mouse, I think you have a bone to pick with your adopted mother. how insensitive and cruel could she be to repeat the words of your birthmother? That is some of the harshest most damaging words yet! Your issues appear to revolve around the adopted mother essentially since she is the one who relayed this infomation and the one who would make the laughter or smirks. No wonder you feel the way that you do around the T. It is a wonder that you trust anyone in an authority position. Do the processing and confront your adopted mother. Best of Luck!