I too like a bit of pain in a sexual scenario with a loved one. I totally trusted her and everything was fine. I was lucky in that I have not had a bad childhood and trauma free life, she liked to administer and I liked to recieve a few lashes, but she would never go too far, as I said I trusted her. If you are OK with it as I was it doesn`t mean that there is anything wrong with you, good luck, Dionysius.