Individuals have individual preferences as well as "group" preferences. I love learning about differences from experience/learning from my husband. He once mentioned when we were first dating that he liked blonde hair and I felt a bit like you express, I can see how it would happen. He also says he "hates" jeans on women and that's all I wear, LOL. But I know myself well enough and know how comfortable I am in jeans and how well he loves me that it bothers me/doesn't bother me, if you know what I mean? I don't like my husband's smoking and he knows that but isn't going to give it up (along with other preferences/habits he has that he "likes"). I try not to take things personally. I studied sociology and had an interesting thing happen when I was shaving my legs and made a comment to my husband that "it's all you all's fault" :-) meaning "men" and their preferences. My husband was startled and didn't get it at all, how he or "men" had anything to do with it but he was on his way to the swimming pool with his youngest son and had his own experience of coming up to the side of the pool next to a European woman who hadn't shaved her legs :-) and he was horrified to realize it "mattered" to him, that he didn't like that she hadn't shaved her legs. LOL. But so what? We all have preferences like those, some we've "learned" and some that are just automatic cultural things and others that we have deliberately looked at and "prefer." Not everyone is going to have the same preference "set" and somewhere there's some nice guy who will look past your hair color. What do you "see" when you imagine your "ideal" guy? When I was a teen he was named "Michael" and had red hair and his eye color changed from day to day, I couldn't decide what color eyes I preferred But there's no such real person. I'm sure some real person will see the real person in you and then it won't matter to either of you what color your hair is?