I believe if you really are inlove it shouldn't be a deal breaker. Sorry you feel such pressure! I have at times felt pressured and since I am a ppl pleaser have gone along with it. But with time I am more willing now to just say no. You see, I have BPD and when depressed I really am not interested! But them when feeling good I have a VERY high libido.

Don't feel pressured and don't worry about what other ppl do. Do whatever is comfortable for you