Daughter 19 had abusive bf. He has hit, pushed and kidnapped her several times. Controlling. Maybe psychotic or bipolar (can say FU and Love you within seconds. BF actions are always based off of emotions. Can't stay in a job or a place to live.

She is in 3rd trimester of preg. She moved 800 miles away from him to live with me several months ago. I have a very good relationship with her.

She loves, fears and hates him. He frustrates her daily with calls and messages. She talks to him out of guilt because of the baby and because she does care about him.

He informed her yesterday he is driving here today so they can be a happy family. She told him not to come over and over. She doesn't want to go to police because she still loves him, but she knows he is bad for the baby, which is why she decided to move here.

He has limited funds and most likely wont make it this far. But there still is that fear. He only knows the town we live in, not the address.

I think he is dangerous.

She showed me all the text messages between them. The conversation ended with her telling him that if he loved her to respect her wishes and not come. That she didn't want him here.

He said, tell me you love me or call and I wont come. (she ignored)
Then he said I love you and will call you in the morning after I leave.

Not sure what to do. I want to call police and warn them of his arrival. But she tells me she isn't ready for a restraining order just yet.

On another note, he has another son... he has suggested kidnapping him to her over a year ago and she talked him out of it. Who knows if he tries that too.