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Originally Posted by allme
Don't let the fact you have BPD deter you from a romantic relationship. I believe it's tougher when a disorder comes into play but it isn't impossible...not with the right person anyway. I would suggest, and this is solely my opinion, that you stay away from anyone else with mental health problems. I am not saying it's impossible but there is not enough space for 2 ppl mental health needs. My hubby is MI free and has been my rock, but if he had MI, I don't think we would have survived. Saying that, you can't help who you fall inlove with...it just happens.
Oh and I hope if anyone else has a s/o with MI as well as yourself, no offence intended....solely my opinion based on experience.
This seems to be a big issue for you  I for one hope you find the love and partnership you deserve  |
*I don't believe anyone is totally MI free. tbh, some are just unaware and cope ok with life in spite of them. Seriously I don't think anyone is truly free of neuroses, illnesses or disorders. Just my thought but it's good that he's solid enough not to cause problems.
It may not be impossible, in fact it may be something that could be overcome but I'm not entirely sure it's worth it at this point. I've had 2 marriages, 3 kids and am a single father now. In truth I am not lacking in things to fill my life, I've been there, done that.
Here's the real kicker. I'd love to have a lady friend, companion or what not, that was there for me for all of the fun and even some of the "benefits" parts but without the commitment/relationship connections. Problem is, I don't do casual and it doesn't sit well with me. I know deep in my heart it would never work for me. So that's out of the question.
See I don't need a new mom for my kids, I don't need a wife, per se. I don't need anyone to give me the things that come with those two things. If I wanted a lady friend, it would be purely for me, my romantic needs and such. Of course she'd have to get along with my boys but I would never want her to try to fill the impossible spot of substitute parent. it just doesn't work.
I know I'm not realisstic but I'm bpd ******mit, so I have my fantasies
