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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006
*I don't believe anyone is totally MI free. tbh, some are just unaware and cope ok with life in spite of them. Seriously I don't think anyone is truly free of neuroses, illnesses or disorders. Just my thought but it's good that he's solid enough not to cause problems.
It may not be impossible, in fact it may be something that could be overcome but I'm not entirely sure it's worth it at this point. I've had 2 marriages, 3 kids and am a single father now. In truth I am not lacking in things to fill my life, I've been there, done that.
Here's the real kicker. I'd love to have a lady friend, companion or what not, that was there for me for all of the fun and even some of the "benefits" parts but without the commitment/relationship connections. Problem is, I don't do casual and it doesn't sit well with me. I know deep in my heart it would never work for me. So that's out of the question.
See I don't need a new mom for my kids, I don't need a wife, per se. I don't need anyone to give me the things that come with those two things. If I wanted a lady friend, it would be purely for me, my romantic needs and such. Of course she'd have to get along with my boys but I would never want her to try to fill the impossible spot of substitute parent. it just doesn't work.
I know I'm not realisstic but I'm bpd ******mit, so I have my fantasies  |
I meant significant MI.
Not that milder MI is insignificant...oh you know what I mean lol
I know you said you've tried this before, but why not give online dating another blast? That way you create a profile explaining exactly what it is you want and then everyone is clear from the start?
I personally think you're over-thinking it all and dooming it all before anything has actually begun. I think this geeky gamer girl has triggered feelings in you and you're running away with the whole idea of it all. Don't think too much, just go with it, se what happens. Don't doom things before they're even begun. I can imagine how the prospect of a new romantic relationship could be daunting for you especially with 2 marriages etc but you never know, the next one, could just be the very one!
Give yourself a break, take it easy, enjoy geeky gamer girl, don't over think it
