S4. I don't think you need to swear off women altogether, but be careful about moving too quickly from relationship to relationship. Especiallty since, like me, you don't do casual. I'm not sure how long you were married, but you may need a little longer than even 14 months to get over that. I am like you in that I get attached way too easily. One conversation with someone that I am attracted to and I find myself planning our wedding. Seriously. Things generally end badly in that 1) My desperation scares them off. 2) they turn out to be just as desperate as I am and I go running the other way. Either way, I think that the other person can sense those strong emotions in us, even when we think we are playing it cool, and it can be off-putting early on in a relationship. It feels to the other person like we are moving way to fast, and, to be honest, we probalby are. Especially in an internet relationship it is easy for the other person to just disappear and for us to feel abandoned. Having a healthy relationship with someone of the opposite sex is something I would dearly love to have, but I am not sure that it will ever happen. I have to just keep working on myself and maybe someday it will come. I have not sworn off men, just not looking right now. Know that you can always vent here.