More and more talking to people here, there is no denying that we have a lot in common with our issues in life and with our emotions, relationships and such. I don't ever doubt that the list of traits is innacurate accurate in its description and even in it's treatments for those that need it.

What bothers me, is that the more I see the multitudes of people that seem to "suffer" from the things I do the more I dislike the term "disorder". I'd feel much better if it were considered a personality type more rather than a disorder.

After all, even as the behaviors may be troublesome and disruptive to our lives, do any of the traits really mean that one is "disordered", "broken" or "not right" in some way? Emotional "Dysregulation" to me is just saying that people tend to be more emotional, overreact to things. Does that mean that having a highly emotional personality means there is something wrong with you? I am not in any way saying that we dont' need help coping and managing them but really is it a bad thing to be emotional?

While i understand that this is just one thing it's just a single example for how I feel that calling bpd a disorder is inaccurate in my mind. Granted, we have a lot of troubles but then a lot of others do too.

I'm a quite capable person, articulate (I think) and relatively intelligent. I have held down careers for many years, I have managed to get through a big relationship break up after over a decade and have been able to get myself re-booted in life, so-to-speak. Being called someone that suffers from a "disorder" is difficult in the face of this. I don't feel less than other people, and disorder seems to make me feel as if I am perceived as "broken" or less than perfect in comparison to others. Of course then again, I'm also one not to judge and expect others to do the same and with that thought I dare anyone without bpd to cast the first stone at me.

I am not proud of my "disorder" nor am I saying I'm special because of it, but I just feel that I wish others would see my traits as different, not worse.

/end rant