A lot of therapists no longer utilize the diagnosis of Borderline because it can be so damaging to the person ... Many now assign PTSD or C-PTSD to folks because there isn't quite so much stigma surrounding those as there is BPD.

Either way, we didn't get to any of these diagnoses without experiencing some kind of repetitive traumas so early in life that our little minds couldn't wrap themselves around it ...

By the way, I think you're an awesome dude no matter what your diagnosis!