I am so sorry you are in this situation. I cannot imagine what your daughter is going through.

Clearly, though, you are both afraid of him and what he is capable of doing.

I agree with the other members...do not allow him in your home. Do not. Your family's safety comes first.

I know easier said than done.

Remember, this is your home. And you are an adult. You do not have to allow anyone into your home you are not comfortable with.

He already is aware that his presence is not wanted. Your daughter told him. And he ignored it. Any sane person would stop right there. However, he sounds like an abuser and a bully and counts in other people's weaknesses to manipulate them.

I was in a relationship not too long ago with someone like that. It is not fun. It is scary.

Please call the police if he shows up and does not leave (do NOT warn him that you will call, either. Just do it. He already knows he isnt supposed to be there). Also, advise your neighbors of the situation and what he looks like and the type of car / transportation he has. Let them know it is fine for them to call the police if they see him. Reassure them that they are in no danger, so they arent afraid, as well.

I had to do that...tell my neighbors. And sure enough he ignored my wishes, and my neighbor called 911 when they spotted him in his car, parked outside my home late at night. The police came, followed him as he drove away (he was alarmed) and they stopped him and talked to him asking him what he was doing. They never mentioned me at all. But he was definitely put on alert that there was a group watching out for me and I wasnt isolated and alone (they also count on that. That is why it is so important to NOT let him in your home).

**When he knew I had others looking out for me, he never came around again. These types are cowards**

Please be safe and do not be afraid to reach out for help. You and your daughter have done nothing wrong (she was with the wrong guy maybe, but sociopaths like this can be quite charming and we dont know who they really are until later in the relationship) and should not have to live in fear (sadly, that is what these guys live for. In their twisted minds, if we are afraid, we will let them get their way).

Please continue to post and let us know how you are doing.