I see a psycho dynamic so a lot of it is relationship based with the transference and attachment used towards the healing process. I have a ways to go. However, I can tell you that healing is possible from it and it does get better. I walked in one day and just told my T I'm attached, done fighting it and that from now-I'm leaving it up to her to hold the boundary. Since that day I'm experiencing a level of healing that I never thought was possible.