Wow, JJ, that's a tough one. First, congrats on the hard work you did with T1, and how well you've managed the transition to living your life without her as your T.

I'm not sure how useful a psychodynamic approach will be when you're holding that deep part of yourself back. And, believe me, I completely understand why you are doing it. Having been through a similar experience, I can not only identify with your reluctance to set yourself up for another significant loss, but I believe you are right to not do so. There is, IMHO, no way to make a significant attachment and do significant deep work in just a few months, without it just being a fast-moving train wreck. Many times people resist that bonding for the "wrong" reasons; I think this time you may have the "right" reason.

Here's how I handled my situation (I am separated from my deeply attached T1, hopefully for only 4-5 months, but possibly permanently, and am seeing T2 in the interim): my T2 is a fine therapist, smart, kind, insightful. I like her and feel generally comfortable with her, but there is no bond or sense of deep connection. My "inner sanctum" is closed to her. We have talked about it, and have decided to concentrate our time on skills-based therapy and cognitive stuff. Even though that's not her primary orientation, she has some training there, and has been quite helpful in what I think of as a more intellectual, behavioral approach to improving my life.

It's not the good, deep work, but it has been helpful, and I'm glad for her support as I negotiate the world without T1.

Do you think that is something your new T would be open to? Be frank with her, and enlist her support in areas that she can help with--reinforcing healthy behaviors, strategies for correcting automatic thoughts in anxiety-provoking situations, etc. Since your time with her is finite, you might as well get some help while it's being paid for by insurance--why waste the opportunity completely?

Just a thought. Good luck!