I didn't know I had attachment problems until I became attached to my first T, and then repeated it with all of the others! My Ts all told me it's because of what I missed as an infant--either by being premature, or by my Mom not meeting my needs, or meeting them too well, or whatever.

They said that therapy will help, but I'm really not sure how! My first T thought by attaching to her and slowly separating, I would heal. Unfortunately, I quit her cold turkey after almost 4 years and never healed.

Second T thought talking about my past (psychodynamic/Freudian) would help. Also building up my confidence that I could cope with my life.

Third T thought CBT was the answer, but she and I had a close relationship too.

Next T thought family systems therapy was the cure but she didn't help my attachment problem, and told me that when I quit her.

My current T said that IFS, EMDR, and SE would help all of it. What helped the most is having a close relationship with her, letting myself become totally attached to her, and experiencing what that feels like. Getting some of what I missed by holding her hand. Learning how to comfort the parts that need it, but knowing my T was there too. Sharing my passions for art and writing with her. Feeling like she's always going to be there for me even when I don't see her. I guess that's a secure attachment. It's not perfect, but it's better than I had before.

So, I don't think the Ts had one answer. They each tried to help me with their specific orientation. Attachment issues are difficult to resolve. I don't think you can heal completely from whatever went wrong as an infant, but you can feel better abour yourself and become more comfortable with other people.