it's been a long and slow process. started allowing one event,activity every so often but it was timed and he had to report thru out the time. once i couldn't leave him alone at work for even a few hrs. i'd call to see he got there. call at lunch, rt before he got off, and sometimes one last call which hopefully he was pulling up thr drive. so nxt step was not calling all day unless it was urgent. if i was lucky he'd call me. then i had to loose the stop watch. and alow him to go and come in however much time it could take. even though i felt a monetary time was sufficient. get in get out get it done.i remember the first panic atack i had when he'd left and didn't tell me, where, for what, with who, and i had no idea how long till he'd be back. his cousin helped calm me down,( probably one of the first and only to acctually attemp toand he seemed to know what to do. how? idk. then he asked me what the heck was i freaking out about. when i explained i wasnt possitive but you never know what can happen. he tru his hands up and walked awy laughing. then i felt relly stupid so i had to wrk harder. now he's gone out wityh old friends to agame. and he goes on the internet. but i kinda took a step back when i dicovered girls on his FB. shouldn't have been a big deal but i lost it. so more work is still needed.baby steps.