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Originally Posted by cboxpalace
We're like other personality disorders in the sense that we're manipulative too. "If you don't talk to me I'm going to kill myself",
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Many of us also lack a stable identity. I've read here and elsewhere situations where others with bpd have taken on the characteristics of someone they see on tv, and when that gets old or someone new comes around that they like better they take on those characteristics.
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So it's not just mood, but it's the inability to have effective/rational interactions with others that affect the mood, and it's the pervasive pattern of interactions with others and the manipulative tactics that makes us a personality disorder rather than a mood disorder.
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For me I try to keep people at a distance by not allowing them to get close to me. To do my best to remain detached so I don't have to deal with the intense anger/sadness. I'm not better. I've just taken on a new dysfunctional way of coping by cutting off my emotions and remain detached.
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That would very much be my opinion also, though I think you said it better than me.
I was first told about mine 20 years ago. When I was 21. I didnt look it up, there was no internet and I didn't go to the library to read more.
Years later I was told the same by a different Psych. And now, ten years later again.. except NOW I have been reading about it due to these amazing 'interwebz' ---
A big part of it is that many bpds are born over sensitive in my opinion, so the slights and hurts and anxieties that some people get through better... we don't. And as we grow, our reactions to the things in life around us become things we unconsciously (and then consciously as we are older usually) learn to trigger from.
I told my psych i didnt think I had abandonment issues even though i was raised with my grandma because she was awesomely loving and kind, he told me that it depends on the unique sensitivity a person is born with. For me, seeing mom only rarely, may have really affected me more than i realized. So.. anyhow, back to my original point, I agree with those points quoted above
*editing : My last two psychs both felt that there was a huge possibility that bpd was in the bp spectrum. But that instead of swinging back and forth over longer periods, you are swinging faster, more rapidly over a shorter space. However, one point my doctor recently made was that if you are bipolar, putting on a song to change a mood is hardly effective, whereas if you are bpd and in a state, you can change a song and feel differently. In the end, tis just a name used to better classify symptoms that they feel fall outside of one or the other. And if it results in help, then i dont care too much.