Update - still a no show, but according to him last night he was about 5 hrs away. She did talk to him and he has been insistent she has lunch with him today. She feels like she is between a rock and a hard place but told him no, that he needed to get his life together. Of course he said a lot that was all over the place emotionally. He said to stop giving him ultimatums and fought unfairly and lied. He is one sick puppy. You would be utterly shock at the things he says.

He says his goal is to settle in a town 3 hours away, but has no job or place to stay. He never wavered on this town (in a state he knows no one) nor considered anywhere else. but we think he may be visiting another woman there he met online. (He did slip and make reference to a "her" as in using her address to get a job)

It ended with him saying he was going to head back if she didn't have lunch with him today.. she stood her ground. We actually wonder if he was really heading this way at all. He was texting her long messages all day, never saying anything about where he was or about the trip. He had plenty of time to make it here even with long stops.

After the call, which she placed on speaker so I could hear too, her sprits were uplifted when she finally hung up and ignored all the many calls and texts. I think she needed to hear his hatefulness and lies once more.

As a last message on FB he posted "You'll regret it one day I promise you that!!!!!!!!!!!"

When words like that come from an abuser, it can only be taken as a threat.
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Now let hope he doesn't show up here today.