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Originally Posted by Sjw081087
I come from a long line of selfish, self centered, angry, unstable people. Call it genetics or learned behavior but this isnt who I want to be. I swore id never have kids and bring a person into this screwed up world and what do I do......have two kids!! I want to break the cycle with my daughter who is 4 but she already has the attitude. Its her way or youll listen to it for hours. I am afraid of raising another one of 'us'. Is there any hope for her?? Can you change the way you are after 26 years of being this person?? I try hard to be less selfish, volunteering/fundraising. I try being less nit-picky, I try real real hard.
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Hi Sjw,
I am thinking that the blame should stop at your door step. You can not change the past but you can change the future. If the will to change is there then it will happen. Start looking at yourself to see what you are portraying to your children. If they are around that behavior they will be that behavior. This includes your extended family. They are not going to change and they are not going anywhere. The only way you can make this happen is by putting yourself and your kids first. Changing your environment will be life changing for you and your children.
When my son was about your daughters age we went to retirement homes to spend time with the elderly, we did this for a couple of years. We shared ourselves with these wonderful full of life story's persons. I think this helped mold and shape my son into a caring and selfless individual.
I am thinking that maybe if you took your daughter with you to these places that you volunteer at, by sharing this with her could help. I dont know just a suggestion.
Good luck
It is hard to be a selfless person. Some people are born with it some are not. But that doesn't mean its not there.
