i'm just putting this in here as it may relate to many people with BPD
i actually have PDD, for those that don't know it, Personality Disassosiative Disorder, i believe it shares some traits with BPD, only mine isn't borderline, it is what it is
however mine episodes are triggered by my emotions, thus my mood
it's not a mood disorder though as when it happens, i am a different person for all intents and purposes
to say that anything that affects another persons personality, makes them less then what they really are (by that i mean they are just not themselves in so many ways), is wrong
no-one can say that, not even if they are a "professional", most of them only know what they know through books, most of them have never even come close to living with anything like these disorders
the professors that say "that's not a disease" and so forth, they are doing it from some sterilised lab in their fancy white coats, not a single one of them has done their surveys using at the minimum 100,000 people, not one. is it impossible to do? not really, you could take an entire city and do that, although chances are you would be picking people that don't have anything wrong with them. those same chances apply when you pick 100 people, or 1000 people...
so for anyone to sit back and say "that's not X, it should Y" is just wrong
unless you're talking about something that can be seen with your own eyes, heard with your own ears, touched with your own hands, smelt with your own nose or tasted with your own tongue, you cannot say that one thing is a certainty over another thing...just an example..."the sky is purple", no, the sky is blue, i can see it with my eyes, the sky is blue...of course if you are color blind, you have to take someone elses word that it's blue if you can't see the color blue and you know you can't...

makes sense?