People who have been abused don't need love or to be in any relationship. They must be all identicle too, and no healing or change can happen for them.

Funny cause I had a father and a few other men who abused me, somehow I managed to heal and work on my own issues and become a healthy individual who has a good relationship with a man that I DO trust. I trust other men as well..they are not all abusers..obviously.

I am sure glad not everyone feels that way. Some people are willing to put aside their own judgement and get to know the person rather than just assume they know them based on something they went through.

I am sorry but that seems like a very judgemental view. Since I am a women who has been abused in my past... I feel like I should at least give some input on that. I think the person who was abused will decide who to trust rather than you telling them who they will or won't trust.