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Old Dec 24, 2006, 12:37 PM
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Everybody experiences transference; that's why it's funny and understandable when a woman says, "I'm turning into my mother;" usually she has just said something her mother said to her a million times? All of that is fine and the way it should be but there are other times when we don't realize we doing that, we have ideas and opinions we think are our own and about us but we've just recycled them from someone else. Therapists have them too and that's called "counter-transference."

I think I remember someone complaining because her therapist had treated/talked to her as if she were her (the therapist's) little sister? That's possible only a great many therapists have had therapy themselves as part of their training and are taught about counter-transference and have an idea of their own issues so they can keep it out of the way. Lots of therapists become therapists from their own interests/problems and a therapist could be urging meds because someone's issues reminds them of their mother's, parents, siblings, husband's, wives, etc. issues and that person would/would not take meds, etc. They could be working out their own issues but it is not very likely. If you're ever worried a T has an "ulterior" motive about something, ask about it! See if they get defensive or if they're calm and open as usual, whether they try to deflect the question, etc. They are truly just humans and one has to make up one's own mind what to do for one's self, can't just do things because someone else thinks it is a good idea. One should have one's own ideas about one's body and how it "works" and what it is up to, how one is using it, etc. The whole "know yourself" extends to physical self too, it's all one package.
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