My son will be 4 tomorrow. He has always been a little aggressive and had very bad meltdowns, but lately the aggression and meltdowns are completely out of control. I am desperate for any advice or book suggestions on how I can deal with him better and get him out of this aggression before he seriously hurts himself or my 7 year old or himself. I have tried time outs, been very consistant, I've taken away toys and priveleges, and please don't tell me he just needs to be hugged and loved more. I've heard it before and he is. He can be extremely violent, but he can also be the sweetest little boy, he just goes to one extreme or the other, so he gets plenty of snuggles and love.