I almost can't believe this. What does she think about the kids crying??? Why would she bring them there, to torture them?
I am definitely for the idea of a family mediator. I know this is very hard for you but it is cruel to the kids too... any mediator would act on the benefit of the kids and hopefully help work something out that they can see you.
This must be the worst of all possible times to have her abusing you like this.
Good thing I wasn't there... I would have marched out there and dragged her out of the car by her hair.... without opening the car door first! I'd pull her out through the keyhole! Then bring the kids in to you and tell your son to make sure that they STAY there with you, with no guilt and no pressure, while he finishes his work.
You should get one of those collars for her where when she barks, she gets a mild electric jolt. Bet the kids would have fun setting that off!
Best wishes for this and getting a resolution. I think you are right to fight this. I know you will be able to find a way to resolve this without dragging the children down... it can be done and you have enough love for them to find a way to do it.
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