Some interesting points have been made, but I'd like to add a couple:

If I had two vacuum cleaners, one would just be taking up space, and really annoy me and I would be glad to be rid of it, especially if I knew it was being used and appreciated.

When your T says, regarding infertility, "we bring these issues on to ourselves in some way",
she may be meaning something completely different to what has been interpreted here.
It may mean that the infertility is not the issue we bring onto ourselves, but the desire for a child is. The desire for a child is often classed as innate and biological, but is driven by psychological influences, primarily social. It is something that is accepted as a biological need, but really needs to be considered in the same way that many of our other desires are, and dealt with through therapy, while the infertility is addressed through medical processes.