its tough. Just please dont mention the skirt, as it will make her feel creeped out. Really it will. However I think its normal to feel the way you do and its hard to get rid of those feelings. I stopped seeing my therapist for that reason and after a few months i felt better and more in control and I went back. it went fine and i didnt experience those feelings. that was a month ago. last night i found myself looking her up on google and just reading about her and looking at her picture. its crazy i know what you are going through. hang in there . remember that your wife is real, really in your life, an active member. Your therapist welll she is just a part time listener of sorts. She is not a major player . i hope it will pass.