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Originally Posted by healingme4me
It never ceases to amaze me, the amount of BS that spills forward where manipulation is concerned. Basically, Oh, I'll respect your wishes, BUT ONLY if you give me what I want. IN this case, to hear her say she loves, loves, loves him.
What makes men, like this cling too tightly? These are the ones, imo, that are the scariest to deal with. Obsession, is no joke! Restraining orders, in my state, for the anti-harassment clause, involve 3 separate instances. Text messages that are saved and time stamped, work well. Key is, making sure the person is served, especially when they start playing the lack of a stable legal address game.
Clearly, she left him, to get away from him. Sure, she's having a baby, she's not the first single mom, on this planet, I have three. Why is she scared of the restraining order? What about him, tugs at her sympathy card? Is it, the baby? My guilt, was/has been, in trying to show others/please others that I am not that type of mom that denies a father seeing his children. *gasp*. The 'horrors'. When was the last time, my exes visitations have run exactly on schedule to what the divorce contract schedule states? It hasn't! Not through my stopping it, I'll say that!
Know what comes next? If it is just about the kids, with an obsessive type? When she goes to move onto a love interest, the fall out! That's why I went back to court this week, for a restraining order, extension hearing! Which, was granted. That's why, my exh, is facing a criminal trial. When obsessed, they just 'snap'! Dangerous situation, to me in, imo.
Wish your daughter, would just realize, that it's not love, it's addiction!
And gf/gf, woman to woman...really?! the sex can't be 'that great', to stay with the emotional roller coaster! kwim??
Glad, he didn't show!! (another prime example, of actions speak louder than words!) |
That is the word I have been searching for "Obsession". You so right on it all. He is obsessive because he feels out of control when she refuses his ways.
When she moved here, he wasn't even aware of it for a couple of weeks. At that time I suppose he felt secure he could manipulate her back into his life as he has done so many times before. After he realized she was here he started contacting her, asking when she was returning. She told him she never was. (I wish she would have broke all ties when she came here.) What pushed her over the edge for her to come here was: 1. Other baby's mama (statutory rape) was still sexually part of his life. 2. She has to beg him to take her to health department for a preg test. 3. He had choked and pushed her after she was prego. (not the only time) 4. She moved back in with dad, but he has many of his own issues, including psychological, verbal abuse and was leaving her in a house with zero food. And didn't take her to a doctor.
This guy feels empowered to do what he does because law enforcement in this tiny town let him get away with everything. Including the statutory rape. (In that state 16 is consent as long as there is no more that 3 years difference. She was 14 when she gave birth, he was 20). Twice my daughter had physical signs of abuse and went to ER in another county. Basically, they call in law enforcement from the tiny town and they took a report and supposedly talked to him and then nothing. In one instance they threatened to arrest her because she threw the contents of a cup of punch at time to keep him away.
She is fearful of him, yet loves him.
She really knows no one here. And I think she feels lonely. Her sis went back to college. She has been looking for employment since she got here. It's hard to get a job when you are showing. She needs friends.
Law enforcement wont put up with his antics here.