Vossie42, last year his doctor said he suspects mild hyperactivity, but my 7 year old daughter has severe ADHD-combined type, and even with her the outbursts were nothing like they are with my son. I'm worried there is something more going on with him, but until he gets into school where someone other than his very paranoid mommy is seeing the problems, there isn't much I can do. The violence usually is triggered, generally because he doesn't get his way, but that happens 4 or 5 times a day, and with as long as it takes him to calm down and stop screaming, hitting, pinching, kicking, throwing things, etc., it's pretty much constant.

ocdwifeofsociopath, 4 is a bad age as far as them trying to be independent i think lol. But his aggression and being out of control doesn't seem to be in phases so much as a progression, as soon as I get used to whatever level he is at, he amps it up a notch or 10. Everybody keeps telling me it's a phase though (especially my husband) but he also says that about his extremely picky eating and that "phase" has been going strong since he was 2 lol. We will get through it somehow, I just wish I knew what to do to help him, because he can't like being like that all the time.