That above isn't exactly "controlling" your behaviour, as much as it is "changing" your behaviour. What I'm talking about is for instance a person with personality disorder. They might like to insult other people to make them feel bad etc. Or a phsycotic person, even he can at some level control his doings. A person doesn't have to be happy, there's nothing there to control, but if you get angry and beat somebody up just because you're feeling angry. Even if you have a personality disorder, you are still fully responsible for beating somebody up.