This is where learning to communicate well, letting another person know your thoughts and feelings and listening to theirs, comes into play.

There has to be give and take in a relationship to accommodate different personal preferences. My husband likes Mexican food, I prefer seafood; sometimes we go to Don Pablo's when we go out to eat, other times he has a burger at the local seafood restaurant, but usually we go to an all-around sports bar that isn't so specialized in what it serves.

I understand what you are saying, I did not meet my husband until I was 34, did not marry him until I was 39. I was uncomfortable out on dates, even with men I was "fond" of/knew pretty well. I once had to leave a guy friend's house at 2:00 a.m., we were in his bed only sleeping, not fooling around or having sex and I was under no pressure, but I just couldn't do it, my own head/imagination was too busy with what I was "supposed" to be feeling and doing, etc. It took another 4-5 years for me to understand myself through therapy enough to trust myself in a relationship.