I am one of those posters, seeking intimacy with my wife, not necessarily sex. I want closeness, and openness. I am a very sensitive man and have never ever once made my wife or any girlfriend ever do anything she did not want to.

I agree with the other posters though, that when you are in a marriage, there is an expectation of faithfulness. Many women do not realize that part of being faithful is understanding both of each others needs and to be there for each other. That does mean that you should not deny yourself emotionally and physically from him, to do so is being unfaithful. Similarly he should not deny himself to your needs, whatever they may be. Denying each others needs is selfish, just like someone forming a relationship outside of the marriage. All of these behaviors do not help the relationship move forward.

Finally for the record, yes I am seeking intimacy with my wife, to be close to her and our family. I give everything in my life to her and my family, my money, my time, my help around the house... as does she, we do this for each other because we care about each other and love each other.

I have been married for 14 years now and we have been a committed couple for 20, more than half of our lives. I love her now more than ever and am more attracted to her today than when we first met. Intimacy to me is a validation of me as a man, as a husband, breadwinner, and dad. If my wife stopped being intimate with me all of the sudden, that would be as bad as cheating, period! Women have expectations from men, and vice versa....when you love someone, it's great to give them what makes them happy, whatever that may be.

When I met her we did not do any major sex acts for 9 months, we respected each other and we've grown sexually together. If a guy pressures you, you simply tell him you're not ready...if he does not respect that, he's the wrong guy. Period!