So there are some needs that you have that are not being met, do you think he has needs that are not being met? I think that the biggest thing is to find out what that is and share it with him.

I've felt conflicted at times in my relationship as well, because we have intimacy issues.... the issues stem from her putting a bubble around herself and it's hard for her to open up to me. She's told me flat out that she doesn't "need me" in a sexual way, and I've felt really rejected in that way.

But the thing is, we get along great, things are good otherwise.... I don't want to lose my family... I really am attracted to my wife and want to be with her and spend time with her.... but I "feel" like she doesn't want to.

So I've seen a therapist etc... the thing is that maybe she does need me just not as much as I need her to need me. Does that make sense?

So the question is, because of this, are we NOT soul mates? I feel like we are or could be.... but I don't know.

Is there such a thing really? I don't know.

I agree with the other posters, you need to find out what it is that you need what you are not feeling and find a way to work it out with your husband. I think if you leave him, you may not feel better.... maybe there is "better" guy out there, but maybe not.

Why are relationships so hard and complicated?