I know it's hard, I've gone up and down and been conflicted in my marriage for a long time.... I sometimes think I may be co-dependent....

In the end, I really know she's right for me... but my mood swings come from the fact that I worry that I may not be right for her.... it's like she has all the power in the relationship because I feel like I need her more than she needs me. Does that even make sense? Intimacy has been an issue because I am more needy in that way than she is, so that's where my conflicts come from. We met very young and have been together for more than half our lives together now... so I can't imaging being with anyone else... but since I feel like I am chasing all of the time, I wonder if someday she'll bail... even though logically I know it's unlikely, it's a crazy feeling.

So to deal with it, I work out... that helps me a lot! I get perspective and it gets all of the endorphins going... stay away from alcohol and recreational drugs, there is no help there ever..

If you are young, I think that you should try to date other guys.... there are plenty of men out there.... maybe someone else is a better fit... if not, you can always get back together with your first BF. My next door neighbors dated in college, broke up, then got together at 35, and have been married for 12 years now happily, so it does happen!