Patagonia,

You sound like a wonderful woman and it seems to me like this is salvageable.

One thing stands out to me though. I think when you tell him "you know what I want"... I could see how someone would think that's confrontational. It would be better to be direct with him and simply ask him, "can you please hold me, I need you right now..."

That will most likely work better. Men are often times not that perceptive. We may not really know what's going on in your head and it could be really confusing to him.

If you asked him directly, and he still walked away, I'd be surprised.

As a man, I want very much for my wife to he happy....although I am very focused on that, perhaps to the point of being annoying.