Being called selfish, by a selfish person! *check*
Little 'accidents' that ruin stuff! *check*
Told that if you do this, you'll NEVER hear from him again! *check*
Not wanting to run back to mom's! *check*

OK, I cannot *check* on the unfiled divorce, due to fear of changes in child support, when what he pays, is clearly all he can afford. (which btw, there are guidelines, they can only take a certain percentage...)

Feeling like he's your only 'friend'*check*
What happened to the friends you had before him? Or are you unable to foster new friendships, because of absorption in this relationship?

Guilt trips *check*
Hearing over and over about how bad the partner was *check*
Lack of respect for your need to sleep *check*
Feeling that a bigger home/different home would clear up the relationship woes *check*

Needing validation to realize it's either not all in your head or that you are not going crazy or that it's not the greatest of relationships to be in *check*

I guess that the question, to me, seems to be, how to get out, and not need at least the friendship aspect? Coming here, is a good start, a place to vent, ask for opinions, advice.