Thank you all so much. I think it's a relief just to have people not try to tell me it's a phase or he's just being a boy. I am going to be writing all of this down and either taking it to his pediatrician next month or to a psychologist (if I can find one that's not too far that will take a 4 year old and accepts his insurance.) The closest neuropsych they cover is about 2 1/2 hours away, closest child psych is over an hour, so I may end up having to take him to just a regular psychologist if any of them will see him, but I will find some way to get somebody to listen to me. I also have to add his self-imposed carb diet to the list. He eats breads and pasta and potatoes, but other than that he is mostly limited to hot dogs, bananas, chicken nuggets, and junk food that I try to limit. He can be very picky about texture too. He will not touch smarties or sprees or any kind of chewable medicine like tylenol or vitamins. He got a chocolate no-bake cookie the other day and it took one bite to figure out that wasn't going to happen.

I remembered about his eating when I found a PDD assessment on Childbrain, I'm not sure how accurate that is, but he scored 74 and the site says that anything between 50 and 100 suggests mild PDD. Should I print this out and take it to the doctor too?