They do that. They accuse us of seeing someone else, when we aren't, because they are projecting their own guilty feelings.

The thing is that your daughter has to make the break final. If she leaves any door open, ajar at all, any crack, he will find it and continue communicating. She has to not reply to him. Or change the number. Why doesnt she block him?

You mentioned she is bored. Is she doing this, creating all this fear and drama, because she is bored?

I had never in my life been involved with a crazy person like you are describing here, but it happened...I had no idea how to communicate in his "language". Being polite, doesnt work. Being firm doesnt work. Most things do not work because these types of men are not normal. They do become obsessed.

(When I felt things were not going to work out between us, telling him that was not enough. Nor was anything else for that matter. These types are relentless. They are like a dog with a bone. The more you try to get away, the more they try to manipulate you. They will say and do anything.

It is really embarrassing, too, to have to tell other people you are being harassed and/or stalked. But as I mentioned in a prior post, they feed off and take advantage of our fears. So safety in numbers. That is what got the guy that snaked his way into my life, away. He realized he could not isolate me. For all his bluster, he was really a huge coward).

((((C4SK)))) you should never have to feel like a prisioner in your own home.

Your daughter has to make clear that it is completely over and she wants no contact with him. At all. And that there is no chance for them. Also, she wishes him well and knows he will find someone else. Period.

If she is unclear about this, the question is, why she desires an abusive man in her life. She has to see a T.

You have expressed here that he is both emotionally and physically abusive. He is clearly verbally abusive. Also you suspect he has wants/warrants. You are fearful. You are now afraid to leave your daughter / your home. This is no way to live.

I remember being afraid of coming to and leaving home: I was afraid he would be there waiting for me. I remember being fearful also that he would hurt my beloved Kitteh while I wasnt there because the crazy person knew how much Kitteh meant to me.

This is awful. It is wrong. It is criminal. You have been sucked into his sickness with her. And now you are even questioning your ability to do your job properly you are so worried (that was one thing I didnt have to worry about, thank God! Even if he came to our office building, there was no way he could get in because we had double security).

Please talk to your daughter with your bf present. Be confident. And be clear with her. Tell her that with every text, every reply, every communique, it is keeping him coming after her. And leaving you all to live in fear. She has to cut it off completely. Period. No more of this. Esp because there is a child involved.

I am not sure if you are aware, too, but most likely, if he already hasnt tried it, he will threaten getting his child. It has nothing to do with him really wanting the child, either. It has to do with him seeing her as having something of his that he doesnt want her to have (if he cant have her).

I do wish you all the best and hope your daughter will start focusing on what is really important: family and the baby. And how lucky she is to have a roof over her head. And food in her belly. She could be living in her car, homeless.

Being involved with him and sucked into his craziness was one of the worst experiences I have had in a long time. I can so relate to what you are experiencing. And I am so sorry I can. I cant believe what you are still experiencing. And that your daughter is still communicating with such a dangerous person. I have to be honest, too, I am out of ideas, support. It is triggering me.
Going through it with the crazy person in my life ... ugh. This isnt a game, and it feels as if it is starting to become some sort of unhealthy dynamic that she is purposely involved in and continuing. And now she has dragged your bf into it (didnt she say offensive things about him the other day)? So I am going to hop off the thread.

Please stay safe and be welll.I wish you peace.