My advice is to stay away from family process. Trust in yourself more to take care of your issues as you are now doing. You can't change your parents or expect them to give the parenting you did not get when you were growing up.

Getting sick will not get that parenting as well. Live in your own place.You will find employment again, when know you are your own source of emotional support. It nice to get it from others, but in the long run, it all boils down to you.