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Originally Posted by Edda
I actually find it so lame that if a child has been abused and exhibits challenging behaviour, everybody will empathize and get all so supportive. Hundreds of thousands of people sob themselves silly watching movies about neglected, betrayed, misunderstood children yet when they are faced with the real life equivalent of the same child; now an adult but hurting just as much if not more, all they have to say is "man up and stop acting out". |
Or.......don't let the past define who you are.
Or....it is in the past....your safe now and you are no longer being abused.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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