Perna,

You are so right..... I kept it in the "dark" because I wanted to give my son a "balanced" life. My Ex was always abusive to the women in his life, not to his children - he has 2 daughters by another marriage. His daughters - in their 30's turned completely away from their mother - which is sad..... They also turned away from me.... which is also sad.
But there are just some things in life that can't be changed.
Thanks...