well said Pegs x people only understand if they have seen all you have been through and no one ever has seen everything other than yourself. even the abusers only see part of the picture. so unfortunately only the recipients of abuse understand what others are going through.
people who are not recipients have no clue and never will. the concept that people could be so strong as to hide emotions and hurt for many years is way beyond their understanding therefore the concept that these people need to release it in later life is not within their ability to understand either. their protected little brains try to relate what they see to their own way of being and try to come up with 'solutions' to our problems and as they have no concept of the problems in the first place they usually are unable to come up with useful or helpful answers.
'it's all in your head... pull yourself together..... only you can fix it...'
yeah like I haven't tried, like I love being like this or chose to be this way, like I am under mental health because I am unable to fix it myself... it is not rocket science, but there again maybe it is to non recipients!